Painful experiences. We’ve all had them. Lost love, loneliness, betrayal, death, illness….it never ends. Pain just seems to be a part of being human.
Some people believe in karma. That is, if you cause a painful experience you are likely to receive one back.
Personally, I’m a believer that pain is just part of life. Painful experiences have as many causes as the individuals who experience them.
The one commonality is that there isn’t a human being out there who hasn’t experienced pain. Right from the beginning of life a newborn baby experiences pain (circumcision, blood tests, eye drops, cold hands). And soon after will follow some sort of emotional pain; because humans are not perfect and we are bound to hurt each other.
The “why” of painful experience is the subject of many books and debates. But I do know that without some of these painful experiences in my own life I would not have grown. I would be less compassionate, less able to see a bigger picture and more self-focused than I am.
Could I see that while steeped in the pain? No. Would I say that all painful experiences are necessary? No. Are some painful experiences necessary in life? I would argue yes. And I can see in hindsight that some of the most painful ones for me have lead to the most phenomenal growth experiences and lead me to become the person I am today.
I would love to hear your thoughts….